Flow House

January: Begin Anew

GRATITUDE, MONTH BY MONTH

Every month we'll be offering a theme that explores universal, cross-cultural, and perennial wisdoms related to the cultivation of gratitude. These tools, reflections, and practices are from Angeles Arrien's book, "Living in Gratitude" and can be a resource guide, available to you at any time. ⁣ ⁣ Gratitude is a disposition, it’s a choice we make. More than any other resolution or goal, it will improve the quality of our mental health, self-esteem, and relationships. ⁣ ⁣ Please follow along this year as together we all deepen our experience of gratitude and its related qualities - thankfulness, appreciation, compassion, and generosity. 🧡 Thank you for being here. ⁣

JANUARY IS THE MONTH OF NEW RESOLVE AND NEW BEGINNINGS.

Photo by Norman Parkinson

Photo by Norman Parkinson

It is named for the Roman god Janus, the two-headed god whose one head faces the past while the other faces the present & future. ⁣ ⁣ January offers the opportunity to make a fresh start and do things differently, to free ourselves from habitual patterns, to improve our life internally and externally.⁣ ⁣

PRACTICE ONE

START RECOGNIZING IN YOUR LIFE THE FOUR UNIVERSAL ENTRYWAYS TO GRATITUDE:

1. BLESSINGS- Blessings are those experiences we hold as “the good” in our lives. They are gifts that open doors to healing, connection, meaning, and transformation. Giving gratitude for our blessings is a way to recognize and honor them. ⁣ ⁣

⁣ 2. LEARNINGS - We do not grow without learning. These challenges help us stretch, reexamine, explore, take risks, and rise to new levels. It is from our learnings that we are able to understand what is meaningful for us. In hindsight, our challenges or learnings are often blessings in disguise. ⁣ ⁣

⁣ 3. MERCIES - Mercy alleviates distress through acts of forgiveness and kindness. Merciful acts generate thankfulness, both in those who have initiated them and those who have benefited from them. When we behave with compassion and mercy, we are more able to forgive ourselves for the harm we have caused and forgive those who have harmed us. A true gift. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣

4. PROTECTIONS - Every culture has practices, prayers, and rituals to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe from harm, injury, or attack. The act of giving or receiving protection is a gift of love. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Which one(s) of these have you experienced this week? Can you feel grateful for the small and large examples you’re noticing? ⁣

PRACTICE TWO ENTERING THE YEAR WITH CHILDLIKE CURIOSITY ⁣ Sufi tale by al-Ghazzali⁣ ⁣ “Children have five qualities and if adults had these same qualities, they would attain the rank of saints. ⁣ ⁣

1. They do not worry about their daily bread.⁣ ⁣

2. When they fall sick, they do not complain night and day about their misfortune. ⁣

3. Whatever food they have, they share. ⁣ ⁣

4. When they fight or quarrel, they do not keep grudges in their hearts, but make up quickly. ⁣ ⁣

5. The slightest threat makes them frightened and brings tears to their eyes.” ⁣ ⁣

In what ways are you manifesting these five simple qualities of childlike openness?

What childlike curiosity and wonder are you currently bringing to your work, relationships, health, personal growth? ⁣

Change is Good!

After almost two years in our beloved home, we are moving to a new location. ⁣ ⁣

400 of you have joined us here - undisguised and raw, hopeful and optimistic. You have infused this house with so much warmth & positivity. ⁣ ⁣

But ... we got too big and could no longer do business in a residential zone, so we're all moving to a new space at the Santa Monica Airport. ⁣

⁣ It is sooo cool! We've created our own little world over here ~ part NYC loft, part 1940s movie set. Tons of space and light, trees, arts, dogs, music. You'll see ... there's something spiritual happening here. ⁣

We love meeting you, knowing you. Watching you grow and change. We love that you cry. We get the goosebumps when you share good news.⁣ ⁣

We know it's hard to put your phones down, step away from work, and show up each week. In these bizarro times, these in-person connections keep us grounded!⁣ ⁣

Thank you for keeping it real ❤️⁣

February: Attend to the Heart

February is the month when we consciously review what touches our hearts. The heart is the central place where we learn about love and what is truly meaningful for us. When we are at home in our hearts, love and gratefulness always increase. ⁣ ⁣

Photo by Ata Kando

Photo by Ata Kando

Who have been the teachers of your heart in the past? What are you currently learning about love? ⁣ ⁣

Want to open your heart and expand your capacity for love and gratitude? Read on! ❤️ ⁣

HAND ON HEART EXERCISE ⁣ Simply place your hand on your heart and breathe gently into your heart center. Feel the warmth spreading between your palm and your chest. If you wish, breathe in a sense of ease or safety into your heart. Then remember one moment, just one moment, when you felt safe, loved and cherished by another person. Not the entire relationship, just one moment. This could be a friend, a child, a therapist; it could be a spiritual figure; it could be a pet. Let yourself feel the feeling of that moment, let the feeling wash through your body, and try to stay there for 20 or 30 seconds. ⁣ ⁣

When we do this exercise, the warm, safe touch of our hand on our heart center begins to activate the release of Oxytocin, the brain’s hormone of calm and connection, bonding and belonging. Warm, safe touch anywhere that feels comfortable on our body can release Oxytocin, but there are neural cells around the heart that communicate directly with the brain and more quickly begin the activation of the release.⁣

⁣How do you feel? Physical … Blood pressure goes down, heart rate stabilizes, the walls of your arteries soften, there’s a slowing down. Emotional … This is how LOVE feels. ⁣ ⁣

And you don’t even need anyone else to give it to you! You have an unending capacity to give yourself love and to activate this physical contentment in your own body. Whenever You Need It!⁣ ⁣

LOVING KINDNESS PRACTICE BY JACK KORNFIELD⁣ ⁣

Through the words I say try to develop the feeling, the spirit, the thoughts of loving kindness for yourself.⁣ ⁣

May I be filled with lovingkindness⁣

May my heart open with kindness & peace⁣

You deserve it – all beings do⁣

May I be filled with the spirit of loving kindness

May I be peaceful⁣

Feel a compassion for yourself – for your struggles & sorrows. ⁣

May my heart open & may I touch this sorrow with compassion & lovingkindness⁣ ⁣

Now think of someone you love a lot. Bring them in & share the feeling. May they too be filled with lovingkindness. May their hearts open, be happy. Feel a compassion for their sorrows & struggles. Feel how much you love them. And would help them. May they be filled with lovingkindness & peace.⁣

⁣Let another person or two into your heart that you love. ⁣ Let it grow bigger.⁣ May they be happy and their hearts open.⁣ ⁣ Let yourself open further. Let in all your friends, people you love. May they all come into your heart. May they all be happy & filled with lovingkindness. ⁣ ⁣

Let it grow further. Let that spirit fill the room. Let there be a field of lovingkindness so that all lives can be received with this heart – open, compassionate, loving & free. ⁣ ⁣

Feel it get bigger than the room. Let it grow in every direction. In front, behind. To the left & to the right. Above & below. Fill the whole of the earth as if you could cover the earth with your feelings of lovingkindness. ⁣ ⁣

Picture the earth as a ball that you could take into your arms & heart. All of the oceans & continents & the multitude of beings – the whales, fishes, birds, insects, the trees, the jungles, deserts, the people. Hold that earth with the heart of lovingkindness and compassion. ⁣ ⁣

May all beings be touched by the heart of lovingkindness. May all beings, those newly born, those in pleasure, those struggling in sorrow, those dying, those in between. May every creature & being be touched & opened and healed by the force of lovingkindness and compassion. ⁣ ⁣

And may the power of our heart & our goodness & our love bring that light to the world and bring freedom to our lives & those of all beings.⁣